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Day 5 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Sacrifices

Day 5 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Sacrifices

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Women who go through IVF sacrifice so much physically, financially, and emotionally. It’s one of the hardest things I’ve ever done and I’m sure many others would say the same. I read somewhere a while back that one woman described IVF treatment as her second job, which is not far from the truth. IVF treatment is like an elaborate symphony, that when done exactly right creates the most beautiful result. But the IVF process also requires precision. Think of it as if one violinist in the symphony gets off beat making others around him get off track as well, and soon the major sections of the symphony go awry. You must know exactly when and exactly how each step of the IVF process will work. If you have any doubt in your mind you need to call your doctor.

 

For my first round of IVF stims I was off work, so any symptoms I had I was able to deal with at home. But not this time. Due to being short on money I decided to go ahead and soldier through my IVF meds while also working. I didn’t really have a choice. Bills need to be paid. So I ended up working this whole week with a terrible migraine. It would only briefly go away here and there, but for the most part it was constantly there. I am so looking forward to this week being over so I can finally get on that plane and head out to the clinic. Time seems to be going by so slowly. But I suppose it’s normal when you are in pain and you want to get on with the next step. The sooner I can get on to the next step, the sooner I can get rid of this damn migraine.

 

I think the best advice I can give someone who is considering IVF is that you need to go in with the mindset that you will do whatever it takes. There are so many sacrifices that you may need to make in order to get through the IVF process, each person is different and each IVF round is different. I’m not trying to scare you away from doing this. Instead I want it to serve as a reality check and a way to help others mentally prepare for what they are about to go through. Here are some of the sacrifices you might need to make in order to make your dream of having a baby a reality:

 

  • Financially: Just because you have enough to cover the initial costs does not mean you will not experience additional costs. Delayed cycles, low-responding eggs, and last minute travel changes are just some of the unexpected additional costs you may experience. Save more than you think you’ll need.
  • Emotionally: Girl…hormones. You may cry for no reason and that’s normal. You may also be extra bitchy or irritable. Each person is different.
  • Physically: Expect your stomach to look like the world’s ugliest pin cushion. You may also get some really bizarre looking bruises. You may bloat like crazy like I did. Stretchy pants are your friend.

 

Those are just a few of the major things I’ve experienced so far with this cycle, as well as with my last cycle. Ask your doctor about possible side effects and how you can manage them. Find out how others deal with the side effects by going online and doing your own research. Some people have really good ideas that may work for you. There is a whole wealth of information out there that can help you as you go through this. As far as my migraines I’ve been told good old Tylenol is the only thing I can take. I’ve noticed if I eat a carb and lie down in a dark room for a bit I tend to start feeling better. Drink lots of water too! The water not only helps you with migraines but I’ve heard that staying really hydrated can help with egg growth as well.

 

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Day 4 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Interviews & Tough Decisions

Day 4 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Interviews & Tough Decisions

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I was debating getting a second job for a few months now to help pay down the debt from paying for IVF. Today I had an interview at a temp agency and I think it went really well. I’ve never applied for work through a temp agency before. This one was surprisingly professional and the building is really high class. The way this one works is that they get paid by the companies to seek out prospective employees. The cool thing is that people like me who apply don’t have to pay a penny. An easy way to think of it is that the company looking for employees outsources their human resources department to this temp agency who does the work for them. Doing temp work is a great way to make extra money to help pay for IVF treatment.

 

But the thing I am wondering is whether I really can handle two full-time jobs, working a total of 80 hours per week. I think if I did do that, I would feel better if I set an end date that is doable for me and select job offers based on a realistic end date. I was thinking doing the temp job sometime early next year, maybe do it for six months. I know Kurtis will think I’m crazy for doing it, and maybe I am. I can be a royal b***h when I don’t get enough sleep, which would be my biggest concern.

 

It might be better to look into a second job that is part-time. I feel like that would be more doable, yet at the same time it would take that much longer tonger to pay off the debt. Decisions…decisions. I’m only taking one college class online right now, so school wouldn’t really be an issue. I’d probably take one online class again next semester. I told myself I would only take one class at a time until my debt is paid off. Because it is too easy to quit school when you don’t take any classes at all.

 

I also need to think about the impact having a second job would have on our marriage. I don’t want to take away any more time from the relationship because I know I need that quality time with him during my time off. I don’t want to feel that working pulls me away from the time I could be spending with him. But at the same time bills need to get paid. I think the best bet is to find a second job that is during the time that he is already at work, that way I don’t feel like I am missing out.

 

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Day 3 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Feeling Yucky

Day 3 (Round 2 of IVF Stims): Feeling Yucky

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Today is more of the same, pretty bad migraine mixed with occasional waves of nausea. I’m starting to think maybe I’m getting sick. I’ve been feeling really cold too. One thing I wish I would have done differently this time was to request the week before my trip off. I just feel really crappy and I’m not sure if it’s the shots that are doing it. But I really needed the money, so I just have to suck it up.

 

Other than feeling cruddy, I am looking forward to the trip. Mom will be keeping me company for this trip too, since Kurtis used up all his time off earlier in the year. He has scheduled his time off for the first egg retrieval trip but he ended up not being able to go since my cyst delayed my trip by two weeks, which was all the time he had available. I had to leave for my trip without him but I’m glad Mom was able to be there. I had to have someone with me for after the surgery. They will not let you just take an Uber, Lyft, or a cab to your hotel, you have to have someone you know to help take care of you after the surgery.

 

I’m not sure if I will be gone for Thanksgiving or not. Based on my calendar now it looks like I will be back, but it all depends on how my body responds to this medicine. My co-workers have been asking when I’ll be back and I can’t give a clear answer because I’m just not sure. I’m not planning on buying anything for Thanksgiving. If I happen to be back in time for Thanksgiving I think to save money maybe we’ll just go out to Village Inn. They have a really good Thanksgiving meal. We’ve done that before, it’s affordable and we didn’t have a ton of leftovers to waste.

 

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